Each day we wake up in the morning to go about our life. The decisions we make invariably will contribute to the outcome of the day. We go through the day and do things we thought were important to get done for that day. Hopefully as the day progresses, you’re making progress and able to check things off. The reality of life is that things are bound to change. An urgent incoming call can alter your day—unexpected calls from school to name a few. Before you know it you’re doing things that were not on your list when you started your day. A mad rush to get things done that are not on your list and lo and behold the day is over. The list that you started the day with is what you have at the end of the day. Does that sound familiar? Yes, I felt that way in the recent past.
Many people demand our time. Unless we know our priorities, we can get sucked into other people’s demand of our time. The more we offer, the more people take more of our time. In this world, there are givers that give all the time and takers that do nothing but take from everyone around them. I’ve fallen victim to people demanding my time and I end up working on things that do not add any value or help me achieve my goal.
Until one day, I decided enough is enough. I need to do things that contribute to my big rocks. The big rocks are things that matter to me the most, like my family, my dream, my aspiration and passion. The day I put my foot down is the day I felt I’ve made progress with my life. By no means have I turned the corner and become fully independent, but I do say “NO” when I have to.
So, how did I do it? I start my day by imagining my dream. As my mentor Paul Martinelli says, “Hold your image.” I hold the image of my dream and let that set for a moment. Let it inspire me to be more aware of what I do and the decisions I make. Understand that each decision made either brings me closer to my dream or pushes me back a step or two. Bring my big rocks front end center, this way I am conscious about it. Believe me it did not happen overnight. It took days, weeks, and months, until I mustered the courage to say “NO” to people. At times, no is not the answer, but rather disrupting you now, when later can I do the work for others.
It took a lot of time to get to where I need to be, but I feel that the progress made has made me more conscious of the choices I made and how I can influence my progress to get to where I need to be.
Big rocks…remember your big rocks. Hold that image each day and make it stick. Be conscious of your decisions and make sure that you are working toward achieving your dream. If you are aware of your priorities, it makes making decision easier.
Are you ready to focus on your big rocks? What would you do differently tomorrow? How can I challenge you to take your first step?